Tiny hands. Jack was asleep when I took his handprint. It was the best time, and it was also easier to clean up. 15 weeks in and we have started to get more sleep in the Otobos household. As with any new endeavor, we are also getting better at it. We are, at least, I think so. We’ve been able to manage an overnight trip to the beach staying in a hotel, and several long weekends away staying with family members. It feels like we are becoming more confident and capable. I tell new employees at work that it takes between 3 and 6 months for them to feel comfortable with their new job. I believe that the same applies to parenting.
The most important thing I have realized this month is that I am glued to the clock.
Pay attention to the passing of time
As you count down to the deadline for a project you keep an eye on the clock. We can start Task X tomorrow if we finish this task today. We are on track because that activity was completed on time. This new risk means that we may miss the deadline.
Parenting is the same. I know how many hours have passed since the last feed, nappy change, or bout of crying. These things are known even without looking at a clock. However, we have clocks in almost every room so we can keep track of the time.
The best example of how long it takes to know is when you sleep. I add up all the hours of sleep each day. I know how many hours of sleep I have had several times. I am obsessed with sleep time. I would never, ever have believed that I would ever be grateful for a 45-minute nap in my life. I don’t remember when the last time I slept through a night. I can’t remember if I could have slept for 8 hours straight, and I was pregnant. But I can tell how many hours I get each night.
I can’t even do this with some of my project milestones. Maybe this new skill of obsessive recording time will transfer to my work life!
You have a toolkit
I have also realized this month that the best tools for the job are not always available. Some projects will work well with Agile, while others won’t. Some projects require a Gantt chart. I have stakeholders who can understand it. Others require me to type a list in Word. To get the best result, you must use all the tools available.
The butterfly mobile is used to buy myself 10 minutes of the parent project’s morning after Jack wakes up. This allows me to make a cup and have breakfast before the childcare routine begins in earnest. If Jack is crying out in pain, we have a lion rattle to distract him. It is also the most soothing of all the rattles that we have, so it doesn’t bother me too much. It’s not something he can shake yet, but I suppose it will.
Some of the tools in our parenting toolkit are already put away, such as the swaddle blankets. Although swaddling was great, it won’t work right now.
What tools do your have that you can pull out over and over again?